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The Confidence Gap: A Guide to Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

February 20, 2023

The Confidence Gap: A Guide to Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

Too many of us miss out on opportunities in life because we lack self-confidence. Whether it’s public speaking, taking on a leadership role, or asking someone for a date, there are situations in which we just don't feel equipped to handle the challenges we face.

Based in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and mindfulness practices, this self-help guide offers breakthrough insights and simple techniques for managing anxiety and developing long-lasting confidence.

The author of The Happiness Trap offers “an exciting alternative to the usual approach of so many self-help books,” demonstrating “the simple and effective methods of ACT” (David Richo, PhD, author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships).

Too many of us miss out on opportunities in life because we lack self-confidence. Whether it’s public speaking, taking on a leadership role, or asking someone for a date, there are situations in which we just don't feel equipped to handle the challenges we face.

Russ Harris offers a surprising solution to low self-confidence, shyness, and insecurity: Rather than trying to “get over” our fears, he says, the secret is to form a new and wiser relationship with them. Paradoxically, it’s only when we stop struggling against our fearfulness that we begin to find lasting freedom from it.

Drawing on the techniques of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a cutting-edge form of cognitive-behavioral therapy, The Confidence Gap explains how to:

• Free yourself from common misconceptions about what confidence is and how to build it
• Transform your relationship with fear and anxiety
• Clarify your core values and use them as your inspiration and motivation
• Use mindfulness to effectively handle negative thoughts and feelings.

“This book could save you years of psychological struggle, yank you out of negative emotional patterns, and help propel you to a much happier, more productive life.”
—Martha Beck, author and Oprah Winfrey’s life coach

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Based in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and mindfulness practices, this self-help guide offers breakthrough insights and simple techniques for managing anxiety and developing long-lasting confidence.

The author of The Happiness Trap offers “an exciting alternative to the usual approach of so many self-help books,” demonstrating “the simple and effective methods of ACT” (David Richo, PhD, author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships).

Too many of us miss out on opportunities in life because we lack self-confidence. Whether it’s public speaking, taking on a leadership role, or asking someone for a date, there are situations in which we just don’t feel equipped to handle the challenges we face.

Russ Harris offers a surprising solution to low self-confidence, shyness, and insecurity: Rather than trying to “get over” our fears, he says, the secret is to form a new and wiser relationship with them. Paradoxically, it’s only when we stop struggling against our fearfulness that we begin to find lasting freedom from it.

Drawing on the techniques of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a cutting-edge form of cognitive-behavioral therapy, The Confidence Gap explains how to:

• Free yourself from common misconceptions about what confidence is and how to build it
• Transform your relationship with fear and anxiety
• Clarify your core values and use them as your inspiration and motivation
• Use mindfulness to effectively handle negative thoughts and feelings.

“This book could save you years of psychological struggle, yank you out of negative emotional patterns, and help propel you to a much happier, more productive life.”
—Martha Beck, author and Oprah Winfrey’s life coach

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Series: Nicole Kalil
Tag: Confidence
ASIN: 1590309235
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